Because of Kamtza and Bar Kamtza Jerusalem was destroyed
“Because of Kamtza and
Bar Kamtza (the incident in which a party host refused entry to a man named Bar
Kamtza, and humiliated him in front of all present), Jerusalem was destroyed.”
(Gittin 55b)
Donkey Distinction
The event had been
weeks in the planning. The sheva brachot for his nephew would be
attended by numerous wealthy friends and family, and Mr. Kimchi was leaving
nothing to chance. “Tasteful, yet not overdone” cooed Mrs. Kimchi, as she
instructed the event planner. The resulting arrangement was only mildly
ostentatious.
Finally, the night of
the event arrived. Mr. Kimchi eagerly greeted his well-dressed guests, and
showed them to their seats. Mr. Kimchi’s eyes were drawn to the doorway, as
another guest arrived. Why was this guest different from all other guests?
Rabbi Sasson was an accomplished Torah scholar. It wasn’t just that, though.
His manner of dress, in keeping with his general lifestyle, was so… modest! His
clothing was nothing like the well-to-do individuals who comprised the
remainder of the guest list.
Mr. Kimchi hurried to
seat Rabbi Sasson at the table. Another friend of Mr. Kimchi arrived. Mr.
Kimchi indicated the seat next to Rabbi Sasson, and called out “come here, and
sit next to the donkey!”
The light chatter
which had filled the room stopped abruptly. Many guests suddenly found great
interest in examining their fingernails. Others chose to focus on the
decorative napkin arrangements. A minute passed, and another guest walked in.
Mr. Kimchi again made his magnanimous offer, as he pointed to the seat on the
other side of Rabbi Sasson, and invited the newcomer to sit next to the donkey.
Somehow, all present
made it through the event. The next morning, Rabbi Sasson went to the local Bet
Din and stated that he would like to call Mr. Kimchi to a Torah judgment.
When Mr. Kimchi and Rabbi Sasson were both standing before the judges, Rabbi
Sasson explained that Mr. Kimchi had greatly embarrassed him, in front of all
of the sheva brachot attendees.
“Of course, I didn’t
mean to insult you!” explained Mr. Kimchi. “I was alluding the verse in the
Torah, which states that the tribe of Yisachar is compared to a donkey, because
they are great Torah scholars, and carry the burden of Torah! I’m sorry that you
took offence, but I had no intention to embarrass you!”
Who is correct? Can we
rely on Mr. Kimchi’s assertion that he only meant to honor Rabbi Sasson, when
he called the rabbi a donkey?
Answer of Rabbi Yosef
Shalom Elyashiv, zt”l:
It all depends on the
assessment of the Bet Din. If it is apparent to the judges that Mr.
Kimchi was simply trying to honor Rabbi Sasson in an original way, then Mr.
Kimchi’s version of the story can be trusted. If the judges see that it is
evident that Mr. Kimchi did not intend to refer to the above-mentioned verse,
then Mr. Kimchi is obligated to compensate Rabbi Sasson for the embarrassment
caused. The Mahari Brona (siman 203) cites a similar question, and this
is his ruling. Everything depends on the assessment of the judges, as to the
true intention of Mr. Kimchi.
(This responsa comes
from the book Kav V’naki)