This week's parsha is parsha vayechi one of the main topics that happen in this parsha is the event when yaakov can down to mitzraim. He found out is son Yosef was still alive and well. Later on in the parsha Yaakov is coming close to the end of his days. So he tells Yosef to bring him his 2 sons ephraim and menasheh so he can give them a bracha… Yosef brings them in with the oldest son ( menasheh) on the right and the younger one ephraim on the left. When he’s about to give them the bracha he swaps his hands and puts his right hand which in Judaism is more prestigious than the left on the younger brother ephraim and his weaker hand on menasheh. Yosef tries telling his father that it should be the other way around but yaakov said “ the younger brother will be greater” so with Yaakov’s wisdom on how to not embarrass any of his grandsons. Instead of telling them to get up and switch places which would have embarrassed menasheh he thought of the best way to save him from that and so he swapped his hands…. the brachah that he gave to them was“ כאפרים וכמנשה elokim ישמך  by you shall israel bless saying ”. This is the bracha that most fathers give to their sons on Friday nights. If you look at the bracha the girl gets it seems like they had it right and not the man. Why the bracha we give a girl is that she be like “sarah Rivka r achel Leah” the 4 emahot. So when you see that you should wonder why don’t we bless our sons the same way with the names of the Avot ? The answer is because ephraim and menasheh where only grandchildren of yaakov and yet they became shavvtim… how’d they do that ?! They worked harder than any of the shavvtim  ever had. They were also raised in the worst setting a Jew should be raised in. This also shows how good of a job Yosef did with chiunch for his kids. So the reason we bless our boys to be like ephraim and menasheh is because we are giving them a brachah to work hard in life. But not just to work hard to go beyond the letter of the law.  They where only grandsons of yaakov no right to be a leader of a shavvet. But since they worked so hard the became sons in the eyes  Of Yaakov.